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What is confidence and where do you find it? My top tips on how to improve your self talk!

Believe it or not, having a poor body image can have quite the negative impact on your life and general wellbeing. In everyones’ desire for the “perfect body”, we often set out with unrealistic goals and expectations. What we forget is that the most important body type isn't the shape, size, or even the size of your bum…The real important factor is how healthy we are and without your health you have nothing!

I believe that there are only 3 things that you need to work-on in life- your happiness, your inner health and your confidence (if you have health and happiness confidence will follow).

Body confidence does not come from your figure or from what the scales tell you, body confidence comes from your mind-set, and we have to exercise our minds, not just our bodies.

So here are my top tips:

1: Watch your self-talk: When your inner diva starts to bad mouth the way you look, stop and ask yourself - Would you speak to a friend like that? How would you feel if you heard someone else talking to them like that?

A lot of the time, we don’t give ourselves the respect we deserve. Negativity breeds negativity! So, the next time you catch yourself having a negative thought, catch yourself on, and try and focus on the positives.

2: Social comparison: Yep you guessed it comparing yourself to others is never going to help, ever! You don't know them, you don't know their situation, you don't know the rubbish they have had to put up with to get “there”, and you don't know if they are actually happy with themselves or their position! Focus on you, your goals, and your aspirations!

3: Know what you deserve: NEVER (and I mean NEVER) let anyone tell you what you’re worth. You are unique, you are amazing, and never forget that!

4: Remove the self doubt: If I doubted everything that I was going to do, I would never leave the house! Yeah, it might not work out as you intended, yeah, it might not be perfect but you know what I can say at the end of the day? I can say I've tried my very best. I did not give up, I did not give in (as tempting as it may be sometimes), and I will continue on!

5: Wishing to be someone else is to waste the person you are…: Too compare, is to despair and we all do it at times. You are never going to be that person you keep looking at, they are them, and you are you. Why not focus on yourself and see what you can achieve!

6: Remember a beautiful thing is never perfect! No one is, and no one ever will be!